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Zulu · 01-08-2011, 04:31 PM

Well, today was 8 months that she has left, I saw her last on Christmas day 2010. She wants to come to the house tomorrow and get the last of her stuff, including her wedding dress, which is still in the cupboard, and some paper work. She said she wants to tidy up the boys rooms, so that they start the year with nice tidy rooms, and that when the estate agents come through, the rooms are nice and tidy. I have been battling with this, weather to tell her that it is not needed for her to come in and do it, I can do it myself, BUT, have not told her that she cannot. She did say that she would like me away from the house when she does it.

Communication has been logistics only, and she has said nothing more about divorce or anything, and I have not said anything either.

So, will see what tomorrow brings, I do not really think that she wants to come back, but whatever, it has been a long time now.

The hurt has gone away a bit but suppose after tomorrow, whaen she has taken the last of her stuff, it will hurt like mad, to know tha tshe has now finally gone. Suppose she will take her Piano and all the music ahe used to play that I always had pleasure listening to, oww, just thinking about it makes me a bit sad.

I miss her, but suppose with time, I will probably find someone new and be happy again, and once the house is sold, be able to move on. I still pray and ask God to afford me a miracle, nd let her have a change of heart, hope he is listening to me.

No idea what I will do if she wanted to come back, a lot of water has gone under the bridge. But then, if you pray for something, and you get it, you must take it I suppose, because then what is the point of praying.

01-08-2011, 04:31 PM	#40 (permalink)
Zulu Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Cape Town Posts: 121	Re: Should I be happy or is she just trying to be nice Well, today was 8 months that she has left, I saw her last on Christmas day 2010. She wants to come to the house tomorrow and get the last of her stuff, including her wedding dress, which is still in the cupboard, and some paper work. She said she wants to tidy up the boys rooms, so that they start the year with nice tidy rooms, and that when the estate agents come through, the rooms are nice and tidy. I have been battling with this, weather to tell her that it is not needed for her to come in and do it, I can do it myself, BUT, have not told her that she cannot. She did say that she would like me away from the house when she does it. Communication has been logistics only, and she has said nothing more about divorce or anything, and I have not said anything either. So, will see what tomorrow brings, I do not really think that she wants to come back, but whatever, it has been a long time now. The hurt has gone away a bit but suppose after tomorrow, whaen she has taken the last of her stuff, it will hurt like mad, to know tha tshe has now finally gone. Suppose she will take her Piano and all the music ahe used to play that I always had pleasure listening to, oww, just thinking about it makes me a bit sad. I miss her, but suppose with time, I will probably find someone new and be happy again, and once the house is sold, be able to move on. I still pray and ask God to afford me a miracle, nd let her have a change of heart, hope he is listening to me. No idea what I will do if she wanted to come back, a lot of water has gone under the bridge. But then, if you pray for something, and you get it, you must take it I suppose, because then what is the point of praying.