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the guy · 01-08-2011, 08:16 PM

I think you should confront him. First, don't let the emotion to start building up between the two of them. Second thing what was the consequences he was going to suffer if he contacted OW?

My thought is after going around with this crap last year you would think that you would be vigilant in validating his commitment, so you're not snooping, and he's foolish for not thinking you wouldn't.

For examble my DS understands that her privacy will never be as it was before. Her consequences for her behavior are know she has to be accountable for were she is and who she is in contact with. That is just part of "I'll do anything to work this out" deal. Granted she had the choice to move on and have her secrets and answer to no one, but she choose the marraige and the work it will take for us to heal and repair the marriage.

So. if your H has given you all his passwords and has agreed to be open and forthcoming in order to repair the marriage, then you would have to assume he knows you are looking, so bring this last event out in the open and confront it head on.

Waiting and watching will only piss you off more and make it more difficult in resoling this issue with a rational mind.

I hope this makes sence and good luck.

01-08-2011, 08:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
the guy Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: CA Posts: 7,374	Re: Back in Touch w/OW I think you should confront him. First, don't let the emotion to start building up between the two of them. Second thing what was the consequences he was going to suffer if he contacted OW? My thought is after going around with this crap last year you would think that you would be vigilant in validating his commitment, so you're not snooping, and he's foolish for not thinking you wouldn't. For examble my DS understands that her privacy will never be as it was before. Her consequences for her behavior are know she has to be accountable for were she is and who she is in contact with. That is just part of "I'll do anything to work this out" deal. Granted she had the choice to move on and have her secrets and answer to no one, but she choose the marraige and the work it will take for us to heal and repair the marriage. So. if your H has given you all his passwords and has agreed to be open and forthcoming in order to repair the marriage, then you would have to assume he knows you are looking, so bring this last event out in the open and confront it head on. Waiting and watching will only piss you off more and make it more difficult in resoling this issue with a rational mind. I hope this makes sence and good luck.