Re: How would you feel if your husband acting like this
ANF824,
Hi hi, your problem seems somewhat similar to mine, I have 9 months old twins and one of them had colic and reflux.......God i can understand how much you will have to go thru just handling this alone! However, my husband works away from home and only comes home 2 times a month and spends 2 to 3 full days per visit. I m a SAHM taking care of the twins with the help of my old mum. My husband did help out a bit but it was never enough and i get all pissed off when he goes for a nap which i can hardly imagine. We quarelled a lot during the first 4 months after delivery and after that he started helping out more but the romance and intimacy is missing until now. I just called a counsellor over the phone and she said i sound like i m suffering from PPD and i have given me an appointment for a session in two weeks.
Firstly, its definitely the hormone thats adding on to our stress which otherwise could be dealt with. Your husband needs to be educated on whats going on in u righ now. Colic will go off once your baby is 3 to 4 months so all u can do for now is tell yourself that this is temperaory and do what u feel comfortable doing. Try and get a nanny for a few hours a day or full day if possible. Take time off from the kids and house at least once a week, would be great if your parents can help if not ask husband to baby sit while u go off for a couple of hours. If can get help try and bring hubby away for couple time.
If u have a close friend or family memeber who would talk to your husband try consulting them. The best is you talk to him yourself but try not to sound like complaining (which i always did and may be thats why i pushed him further away)
I m actually not in a position to advice as i myself havent sort out my problem but just want to tell u that u r not alone! Try not to give in to the stresses, stay strong. Pm me if u want to talk more! take care
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