That's a good term....rabbit hole.
We are mostly into individual sessions because my wife has yet to come to a place where she feels ok with her. She really doesn't want me to see her vulnerabilities. Every week when she has a session (mine are every two weeks and are just to keep me from getting bitter according to the therapist), she is so snippy. Lashes out and goes into her "getaway". It's ok. I'll just keep chugging along and take care of the babies! I just know don't speak for 24 hours after session!!!!