 Re: Loners in Relationships?
I think being comfortable with being alone actually makes you better qualified for a relationship, because then you know you are in it because you actually like/love the person and not because you're scared of being alone.
I, like major, have kids, so technically wasn't alone. But I didn't date much. When I found my boyfriend, I was on a dating site, but I was just kind of halfheartedly looking. I only got together with my boyfriend because he is such a great guy (we have our problems, and he has his quirks and annoying habits, but overall, he's great), otherwise, I'd probably have forgotten all about the site by now and still be single.
The thing is, my boyfriend drives a truck and is gone for about a month at a time and then home a few days, although he is getting ready to go back to school to become an RN and then he'll be home all the time; that's not for about a year or so, though. So, with his current job, we both still get a lot of alone time. We spend hours on the phone together each day, but still...we get plenty of time alone to be online, cook what we want, watch whatever we want (well, for him when he's parked for the day). When he's home, we get lots of together time. I can't say it all balances out, because in terms of quantity, it doesn't. Once he is home all the time, we won't quite get the same separation of together/alone, but I think we're both willing and able enough to make sure we each get some time alone and our time together, both just us alone and us with the kids.
Whether this is just a phase you're going through or will continue to enjoy being alone is hard to say. I think the key thing is you know you enjoy it, so when you do begin looking again, if you do, you'll be able to clearly tell potential partners that you value your alone time and find someone that is compatible with you in that regard.
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