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MsLonely · 01-17-2011, 08:13 AM

I totally understand how you feel because I have same problem as well. I'm also the one who make effort taking care of the marriage, communication, and ideas to spice up sexual life.
Year after year, I feel bored.
I don't enjoy seeking romance alone when my husband just waits to see I make something awesome happen.
You will need to communicate with your husband in a different way. Firstly, give him few tasks to cooperate.
If he can't do housekeepings well, at least, he should NOT make the house messive and harder for you to clean. You can always find small things he can do, such as throwing the laundry in the washing machine, dumping garbage, checking mailbox & collecting mails...etc. You can also request him to prepare for a surprise on Valentine's Day for you.
No matter what surprise he might prepare, you have to give him positive reinforcement. (Show him you appreciate the surprise.) Important is to get him used to cooperate with you as first step.
Slowly, he would take his turn, ready making bigger effort taking care of your emotional and physical needs.

01-17-2011, 08:13 AM	#2 (permalink)
MsLonely Banned Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Singapore Posts: 1,484	Re: I feel trapped! I totally understand how you feel because I have same problem as well. I'm also the one who make effort taking care of the marriage, communication, and ideas to spice up sexual life. Year after year, I feel bored. I don't enjoy seeking romance alone when my husband just waits to see I make something awesome happen. You will need to communicate with your husband in a different way. Firstly, give him few tasks to cooperate. If he can't do housekeepings well, at least, he should NOT make the house messive and harder for you to clean. You can always find small things he can do, such as throwing the laundry in the washing machine, dumping garbage, checking mailbox & collecting mails...etc. You can also request him to prepare for a surprise on Valentine's Day for you. No matter what surprise he might prepare, you have to give him positive reinforcement. (Show him you appreciate the surprise.) Important is to get him used to cooperate with you as first step. Slowly, he would take his turn, ready making bigger effort taking care of your emotional and physical needs. Last edited by MsLonely; 01-17-2011 at 08:23 AM.