Originally Posted by kajira

I am going crazy. It has been six weeks since I found out about the affair and he does not understand why I do not want to "be" with him. I have been cold and very distant, I do not want to snuggle or be touched by him. I am still trying to figure out what the hell I am going to do. How can I be compassionate and understanding when all I am trying to do is survive. I am house sitting the next few days for a friend from work and I am getting accused of "planning" a good time. Yes, I told him, some peace and quiet to try to clear my head. He suggested a bottle of wine and a nice evening, I said "we will see". At this point it isn't about him anymore, it is about what I need. Is that so wrong? Am I really being so out of line? I can barely function. WTF am I suppose to do??????