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DjF · 01-19-2011, 09:43 PM

Denise, in your first post you said only you can control your own happiness or sadness...that is true to a certain extent, you can create your own happiness, but by letting him control you, you are letting him add to and maintain your sadness...

I think you are still trying to handle everything on your shoulders, both his problems and yours...I think you need a time for total separation except for anything dealing with the kids...you need to decide what is best for you, and the kids and as long as he keeps in constant contact with you, he keeps dangling that carrot in front of your nose...he keeps control...

I know you want him back, but it might just be time to let him go...you need to get your own self-esteem built back up, become stronger...find your own strength...

01-19-2011, 09:43 PM	#14 (permalink)
DjF Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Midwest Posts: 417	Re: hmmm Denise, in your first post you said only you can control your own happiness or sadness...that is true to a certain extent, you can create your own happiness, but by letting him control you, you are letting him add to and maintain your sadness... I think you are still trying to handle everything on your shoulders, both his problems and yours...I think you need a time for total separation except for anything dealing with the kids...you need to decide what is best for you, and the kids and as long as he keeps in constant contact with you, he keeps dangling that carrot in front of your nose...he keeps control... I know you want him back, but it might just be time to let him go...you need to get your own self-esteem built back up, become stronger...find your own strength...