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Mustang! · 01-22-2011, 12:40 AM

Bigwayneo,

Welcome, I'm sorry this has happened but from what I've read you definitely have a chance to save your marriage. The guy has a lot of great advice. You both need to accept responsibility for what happened. While what she did was very very wrong.. it happened for a reason. Cheating is ALWAYS the product of another problem.

First and foremost you need to make sure that this cannot happen again. Its good that your "friend" is moving out but make sure they ZERO communication.. No FB, No calls, no texts, no emails, nothing. Its probably a good idea to do a no contact agreement.

This is a very crucial time in the healing process. This is where she will either start lying and hiding things better, or commit to working things out with you completely.

Your marriage still has hope and you are not wrong for wanting to work things out. But you cant live your life "hoping" she wont do it again. You need to make damn sure it NEVER happens again and take the appropriate steps to protect you marriage. Make sure she understands you will not tolerate that behavior.

Good luck.

01-22-2011, 12:40 AM	#5 (permalink)
Mustang! Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 48	Re: Wife and Best friend.... Bigwayneo, Welcome, I'm sorry this has happened but from what I've read you definitely have a chance to save your marriage. The guy has a lot of great advice. You both need to accept responsibility for what happened. While what she did was very very wrong.. it happened for a reason. Cheating is ALWAYS the product of another problem. First and foremost you need to make sure that this cannot happen again. Its good that your "friend" is moving out but make sure they ZERO communication.. No FB, No calls, no texts, no emails, nothing. Its probably a good idea to do a no contact agreement. This is a very crucial time in the healing process. This is where she will either start lying and hiding things better, or commit to working things out with you completely. Your marriage still has hope and you are not wrong for wanting to work things out. But you cant live your life "hoping" she wont do it again. You need to make damn sure it NEVER happens again and take the appropriate steps to protect you marriage. Make sure she understands you will not tolerate that behavior. Good luck.