Originally Posted by seeking sanity
Oh yeah, the 180 is just a way for a person to gain back their personal power, whether infidelity, addictions, or just neglect. The more invested partner often finds him/herself TOO invested in the relationship trying to control it to manage anxiety and get our needs met. The 180 is a way to detach from the outcome, and take responsibility for meeting your own needs.
I've re-read the 180 post made a few times. For instance - right now - I want to know what she's doing for lunch. I have this fear that She would bring this guy home for lunch. ( Not for anything Physical - I've got no worries about that right now. ) - AS she's going home to let out the dog and she'll usually bring a co-worker or 2.
I told her back when this started I don't want him and her alone anywhere. But - I don't think she actually cares about the initial boundaries set.
ANYWAY - SEE!? HAHAHAHA. All this worry for nothing.
SO - I was just about to text her " How is lunch - how's <Dog Name? >
But I said - NO. you're beeing needy. You don't need to know where she is, you don't need to check up on her. And came to this forum to read the 180 post - as well as to read this and my other thread.