Catherine602

I get from your post that you think that there is something wrong with you for having sexual urges and that your wife is normal for not wanting sex!! I don't know where you got that notion but let me reassure you that it is the other way around. You are the normal one and your wife is the abnormal one.

Please do more reading about yourself as a man and know that sexual urges are a natural part of being human and to want to act on them is quite normal. A normal marital relationship includes regular satisfying sex with the partner. When that does not happen for the reasons you outline, then the union is in trouble.

You are not the trouble, you want a normal marriage. I can't speculate on why your wife does not want sex but she has no cause to make you feel like you are a freak for wanting to have sex with your own wife.

Read and understand male sexuality, I have a feeling you are totally ignorant and there is so much info available. In addition inform your wife that you are normal and you want to have a normal married life with her.

If she cannot manage that, she may accept an open marriage or you can divorce and find someone who is more enlightened. As for your child do you think this is a good model of a marriage? Is it good to see their father in the state you are in now?

Your wanting to turn off you sexual urges to stay with your wife is like a zoo-keeper turning the zoo over to a Mynah bird because it talked him into it. Makes no sense. Try to gather your wits about you, your in this sorry state because of lack of intimacy. Read about what happens to men who are denied sex in marriage. You will see that you are reacting normally.