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CPT CONFUSED · 11-03-2008, 09:56 AM

"Not only did I do nothing wrong"

not to doubt your feelings my friend because everyone has them and you are totaly correct in feeling every once of what you feel right now but did you ever discuss with your wife why she cheated?? how she was feeling? i know that it sounds right now that i agree with the fact she did what she did was okay but to quote a friend of mine

>>>>the right thing to do?!?!? Impromptu poll time...everybody who thinks an affair is ever "the right thing to do" stand over here>>>>> (crickets chirping)

i know this is going to sound like im dogging you but please take this with a grain of salt when i say it ...when i found out my wife was cheating on me i just about went ape****! beleive me i was hurt,betrayed you name it i fit the profile to a t! but people dont cheat because they are happy i dont know at this point if you guys have thought about saving your marriage but i suggest that you try to talk to her it took me alot to understand as sadistic as this is going to sound that i myself on some level was responsible for my wife doing what she did .. i think you should try to ask her why she chose to do this you might be very suprised by her response! i hope in my being honest with you.. you havent gotten afended that was not my intent just being honest as i see it! it looks like you and your wife have some serious communication issues!

please sit back and acess your situation you might be very surprised by what you might learn about your wife and yourself i hope everything work out okay for you..

and god bless you! with everything you chose to do!

CPT

11-03-2008, 09:56 AM	#2 (permalink)
CPT CONFUSED Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 150	Re: Need some peace of mind !! losing my mind "Not only did I do nothing wrong" not to doubt your feelings my friend because everyone has them and you are totaly correct in feeling every once of what you feel right now but did you ever discuss with your wife why she cheated?? how she was feeling? i know that it sounds right now that i agree with the fact she did what she did was okay but to quote a friend of mine >>>>the right thing to do?!?!? Impromptu poll time...everybody who thinks an affair is ever "the right thing to do" stand over here>>>>> (crickets chirping) i know this is going to sound like im dogging you but please take this with a grain of salt when i say it ...when i found out my wife was cheating on me i just about went ape****! beleive me i was hurt,betrayed you name it i fit the profile to a t! but people dont cheat because they are happy i dont know at this point if you guys have thought about saving your marriage but i suggest that you try to talk to her it took me alot to understand as sadistic as this is going to sound that i myself on some level was responsible for my wife doing what she did .. i think you should try to ask her why she chose to do this you might be very suprised by her response! i hope in my being honest with you.. you havent gotten afended that was not my intent just being honest as i see it! it looks like you and your wife have some serious communication issues! please sit back and acess your situation you might be very surprised by what you might learn about your wife and yourself i hope everything work out okay for you.. and god bless you! with everything you chose to do! CPT __________________ "I WILL SAVE MY MARRIAGE." "i will be a more sensitive,caring,and emotional person this is what my family deserves from me." "Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain..."