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Originally Posted by jmami0204
he says it was just a phase but can it really be just that.
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My opinion? No.
Now it may be possible he just enjoys the
attention. That would be completely different. But if he's interested in having sex with men, and you say he almost acted on it, that isn't something that is typically a phase.
It's possible he may be interested in some things typically seen as "gay". He might want to try something new in the bedroom. This all requires him to tell you what is going on. You can't fix a problem you don't know about.
Would counseling be an option? Maybe an outside opinion can help the two of you figure out his feelings. Has he given you any more information about why he was interested in a extramarital affair?
And please don't interpret this as me saying anything is your fault. You've expressed a desire to stay with him and I'm trying to look at it from that view. Bottom line: He messed up big time. You have to get him to talk with you about what he wants. What does he think "working" on the relationship means? Does he think you're going to do all the work? What is he bringing to the table?