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have been married 20 years I have four children.My husband and I get on well but last year we hit a rocky patch money worries and a new job drained my husband also i was in college, to cut a very long story short our sex life suffered, one evening my husband left his mails open and I spotted he was on many date sites, and appeared to have been attemping to arrange a date ,so I set up a fake profile and he fell for it ,he arrange to meet at a hotel not far from our home his face dropped when he saw me ,he swore he hadnt met anyone before and said he really didnt know why he had done it I asked him was it because we hadnt had sex in a long time he said no whenever I attempt to have sex he was always saying "Im tired or got to be up early when it did happen it was wham bang and roll over ,leaving me to deal with myself ,we tried to get on with things when a year later he was meant to go away for a weekend with his mates again i found he had tried to arrange a meeting with some woman overseas ,she hadnt taken him up on his offer,so more talking and we again tried to put it behind us. Since then sex has been rare, with him saying things like "Im tired ,I got to be up early for work when it does happen he just does his bit and rolls over when he says "sorry" because he knows although he has relieved I have'nt if I ask him to help me he just gets annoyed
I really dont know what to do and would love to hear opinions from other men that this has happened to maybe they could enlighten me or women who have encountered the sme problem.
We are both 41.
Thank You in advnce