 Re: Don't know what to do
First, I think your hubby is keeping contact cause he is thinking if he deletes all contact and the baby is his, what happens then? This is the woman's tactic of leading him on.
Second, I am a little confused on dates,but if she was five weeks, the baby would be so small. If she did send an ultrsound pic, go on the internet and see what a fetus looks like in five weeks and compare it to the picture. It should say on the ultrasound,her name and how many weeks along she is.
Third, if I were her husband, I would want to know if I might be possibly raising another man's child. The fact the she said he is abusive,then why has she stayed there all along with her other kids? When a person is in an affair, they lie about their spouse to justify their actions of having an affair. You can only be responsible for your actions. I think she said that to keep anyone from going to her hubby. Look what it has done to you,you ae doubting wether you should tell him. As far as your hubby's reaction,he is most likely concerned for the child after the lies she has fed him. You can tell the hubby what has been going on and the fat the she has mentioned he is abusive to her and if something happens to her that you and your hubby are witnesses to the abuse and since a child is involved,you would report it. A couple of things will happen if hubby is told. He might be able to tell you when his wife told him she was pregnant. He could also stop her from calling your husband. He might be abe to get you medical proof about the baby. By the way, at this stage she would have no idea if it is a boy or girl.your hubby might be furious,because of concern for the child.be prepared for this,but if it gave you some peace,I would say it would be worth it.
Get a lawyer and have him send a letter requesting information too. This will show her how serious your hubby is. More than likely her hubbywould know after this anyway. Even if your hubby has the best intentions of making your marraige work,he still will have all sorts of emotions about the child,how you two will explain it if it is his, the child's welfare while the mom is carrying it.
Finally, I found it funny she said that just because your marraige was bad, you shouldn't ruin another marraige. Hello, she is a CHEATER. Her marraige can't be doing that great either! She DOESN'T want you to say anything as she is most likely telling hubby their family is being blessed with another of HIS kids. This could be bad news for her, so she wants you to keep quite.
I am sorry you are going through this, but stand up for you and your marraige and don't let her control the situation with her lies!
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