Originally Posted by MEM11363

SA,
Guilt does not yield desire. Anger does not yield desire.

There are a specific set of behaviors that typically DO generate desire. Magi needs to go to "married man sex life" and read. He needs to NOT talk to his W about the problem. He needs to do the things that "create" desire.

Complaining about how this hurts his feelings is his WORST move. BTW - his W has already given him a HUGE hint as to what she wants. He placed it in his initial post.

She likes to "hunt and fight". He needs to give her the chance to do both. Magi "fight" does not mean you EVER hit/hurt her. It may mean you learn just how much an intense wrestling match "amps" her desire. And it may mean you need to learn how to put an "edge" in your voice that makes her very uneasy. She WANTS you to do that. And frankly you will need to steadily deprioritize her while remaining the fun/upbeat/happy guy you are until she "chases" you.