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Sailorgirl: I am not gonna run off and give up on him, I understand where this could be going, and I've thought a lot about it, since I struggle with sleep and the easiest method to help me fall asleep was sex, I'm often up for hours at night, thinking about this situation. I love my husband with all of myself, and I try to be respectful of him and give him his space with this, and although I am very frustrated here, I'd rather be with someone I have an emotional and spiritual connection with than someone who I only connect with in bed. I also know that I could find both, but I honestly don't believe my husband doesn't like sex, when we were first together, he was very much into making love, where as I had never had a partner who I was intimate with like that, it was always just sex and lots of it. Regardless of that difference, I've found the joy of making love and we have always had the same taste in sexual experiences, we both love the same things, and it is great, except for the fact that his libido is gone.. I know he understands what I want, but he just can't give it to me, since his cravings for sex are gone.

Blanca, I'm very interested in that book, I have felt like I'm pushing him too much, like I maybe need to calm down and focus on other things, allow things to be as they are. Which I've tried, but I'm honestly crazy about him emotionally and physically. When I don't allow myself to touch him or try to be sexual with him, I feel hurt and suppressed which leads to a whole lot of built up anger, which then explodes when we have a tiny argument, and he's blind sided by it. I'm going to try to read the book, and try not to beg or pressure him.. But the less I try, the less I want it, and I don't want to end up being that couple that never has sex because neither of them enjoy it anymore.. I'm so depressed and lonely, I have no friends here since this is my husband's hometown, a long way away from anything even close to family for me.. I have no one to talk to, nothing to do. I feel as if I've given up so much to be with him, and he can't even have sex with me?! What kind of man doesn't want to have sex with their wife?