JustAGirl

After talking and talking and talking (all brought on by me) I am leaving! Without going into our story, basically he is and has been totally passive aggresive. Refusing to separate, refusing to give me anything I need, refusing to even ackowlege there is a problem....instead, he walks around like nothing has happened or that I've even said what I've said to him.

I'm scared and mad and just plain tired of it all.
I'm going to therapy (and have been for about 3+ months)
In that time, he has refused to go several times....
He says he loves me...how is that possible?

How can you love someone and:
1. not hear or care what they are saying?
2. Refuse to even TRY therapy?
3. Not want to talk about what's going on?

The ONLY thing he's said is, "We don't need anyone or to separate, we can do this ourselves"

Really?!? I've been trying for three years!

Our whole history is pretty much in my very first thread.
I've come here for support before and I need some encouragement. Not how to fix it, I've tried and I can't do it alone. I've tried talking to him and I have reached my breaking point....

I am struggling with up and moving out (during the week while he's on a job) and just leaving a note. An attorney I spoke to told me to do that....and I didn't want to, I wanted to tell him. But he's not talking....

My son knows that there are major problems and he and I have done more talking (very simple stuff and I am not going to bash his Dad...whether he does me or not) I have friends who are willing to take the day off to help me (one of which is a police officer-so I feel better if he was to pop in).

Has anyone here done this? What should I expect?
HELP!

Thanks for reading...thought I would be brief but if you've ever posted here....you know what a challenge that can be lol

M