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Affaircare · 01-31-2011, 06:31 PM

Very well-written and right on target factually.

Fog does not mean they aren't feeling it--obviously disloyals do have an emotional attachment to their OP--but it does mean that the ability to think in a clear-heading, rational way is clouded. I've seen time and again where a loyal, having known their spouse for decades, will say "Oh he/she would never do that!" and in their normal, unfogged way of thinking they wouldn't! But the fog is partially due to the brain chemistry, and partially due to the defense mechanisms. And WOW you explained it so clearly!

Well done!

01-31-2011, 06:31 PM	#8 (permalink)
Affaircare Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 2,510	Re: Never say Never Very well-written and right on target factually. Fog does not mean they aren't feeling it--obviously disloyals do have an emotional attachment to their OP--but it does mean that the ability to think in a clear-heading, rational way is clouded. I've seen time and again where a loyal, having known their spouse for decades, will say "Oh he/she would never do that!" and in their normal, unfogged way of thinking they wouldn't! But the fog is partially due to the brain chemistry, and partially due to the defense mechanisms. And WOW you explained it so clearly! Well done! __________________ Helping couples recover and reconcile after an affair or keep their marriages affair-free at Affaircare. The 180 * Coping With Infidelity Newbies--Please read this!