Originally Posted by spartan
well you took action and thats a great start i would say. The worst part in all of this is the uncertainty of the unknown. How do you know if you made a right or wrong decision right?
Either way, you took the action instead of letting the action come to you so whatever happens you did this for yourself! GOOD FOR YOU!
and i agree about taking the high road with the kids, post-divorce is most crucial to the kids and the way you handle yourself from here on out is how your child will respond
All I can really be certain of at this point is that I'm making a change. Would love for a miracle to happen and he open his eyes but sadly, he hasn't in so long, this can be the only thing that does. And do I want that back? See...the thing for me is, if I didn't leave, then he doesn't have to make any changes or even ask himself what happened b/c I am enabling him to continue the same pattern. It took weeks of therapy for me to see that....I really wish I would miss him.....but the "him" I knew has been gone so long. And don't get me wrong, I've changed too....but I think I was so into him and his wants and needs, I didn't put myself first. Well, I would say around 40 I woke up and asked myself..."what do I want and need?" It's definately not a one-sided, non-existant sex life with a man who says he loves me, but doesn't act like it. He is simply a roommate to me now....I feel for you men, rejection SUCKS! And depending on how it happens, can be devistating!
My son is the one I'm really worried about now....he knows things aren't good. I've gone thru how he will react over and over....I will just do my best to explain the situation, answer his questions and honestly and briefly as I can, hold him and just show him I'm fine and he will be too.