Originally Posted by AlwaysThinkingMaybe
I read your first thread after your reply to mine. Honestly when you first posted, I couldn't think we were that similar, cause with the avatar picture you have I never would have though we were so close in age.
You're right, our situations are similar, especially how I feel. Though, my husband and I still share a bed.
When I read this: "I woke up @40 and realized that I wasn't getting what I needed. Decided to sit down with him and try to tell him things I thought we could do and even as a family to become closer. I feel like he's given up on life and the adventure of it." .. I almost cried because its easily the same words I would have posted.
Be sure you have spoken to a qualified lawyer before you move out. I've known such horror stories from people who have gotten into that situation for the worse.
In my state, it doesn't matter who moves out...but it has to happen before you can even get to a court hearing for an agreement. It's like a pre-divorce agreement that takes care of everything you own, assets, visitation etc. We can't be living in the same house and be considered "separated" and you have to be separated for a year before you can divorce. My husband refuses to leave, so I'm acting off advice from my attorney....and I've spoken with a few.
Our stories are similar...and what's sad is, it didn't have to get to this point. If he had even tried, we could quite possibly be happy! Best of luck to you!