02-01-2011, 12:08 PM
Join Date: Jun 2010
| | Re: I am so scared!
Originally Posted by JustAGirl
All I can really be certain of at this point is that I'm making a change. Would love for a miracle to happen and he open his eyes but sadly, he hasn't in so long, this can be the only thing that does. And do I want that back? See...the thing for me is, if I didn't leave, then he doesn't have to make any changes or even ask himself what happened b/c I am enabling him to continue the same pattern. It took weeks of therapy for me to see that....I really wish I would miss him.....but the "him" I knew has been gone so long. And don't get me wrong, I've changed too....but I think I was so into him and his wants and needs, I didn't put myself first. Well, I would say around 40 I woke up and asked myself..."what do I want and need?" It's definately not a one-sided, non-existant sex life with a man who says he loves me, but doesn't act like it. He is simply a roommate to me now....I feel for you men, rejection SUCKS! And depending on how it happens, can be devistating!
My son is the one I'm really worried about now....he knows things aren't good. I've gone thru how he will react over and over....I will just do my best to explain the situation, answer his questions and honestly and briefly as I can, hold him and just show him I'm fine and he will be too.
I know what you mean as I am in a similar situation. I have not taken any action yet and I don't know which way to turn yet. I will guarantee one thing though- whichever route I take i am going to make sure I take that route allllllllllll the way to the end!!!