swedish

I'm sorry to hear this. You are right in that he probably has no idea how hurt you are...to him since they weren't physically together he may not realize the gravity of the feelings of hurt and betrayal you are having. How did you find out? The biggest problem I see for you going forward is his 'it was just words' attitude...maybe a calm talk telling him how this has made you feel, as his wife and hopefully he will have enough compassion to understand that it goes way beyond words...it's the foundation of trust in your marriage and that he is totally committed to you and puts your vows and feelings above a cheap thrill for him. I hope for your sake he comes to his senses and realizes the hurt he's caused. Until he does that, it will be difficult for you to have peace of mind that he won't do it again. If he shows true remorse the way you are feeling will get better over time...I hope he steps up so you can heal your heart.

I also hope this friend is off your friend list...no good friend would mess with your marriage...she is selfish, plain and simple.

And you are definitely not wasting anyone's time here. Many of us have been hurt and have experienced the same feelings as you are so know that you are not alone and this can be a great resource to help you through this.