Originally Posted by Xander
Whatever your thoughts about my point #2, I think madimoff is going about it COMPLETELY the wrong way. Passive-aggressive sniping to undermine his confidence will only exacerbate the problem. If his "banter" insults are too stinging, you need to say something directly and immediately. Insults that approach arguments need to be squashed, not returned in kind. Otherwise you're just going to escalate the hostility.
I accept that's a possibility, I was just working from the couple's history of banter being something they'd enjoyed (and it wasn't to undermine his confidence, rather to demonstrate how he'd made her feel) - but yes, it involves a chance of failure or worsening things