| | Re: I want to be happy. Should I be?
I also had my doubts after I got married that this is what my life was meant to be. Although I am on the verge of being single, I feel marriage is the life for me, and if my current marriage ends, I will be better prepared and more sure of myself for the next one.
The idea of getting married to IS to find happiness with someone you can share a deep connection with. That does not happen by itself, you have to make it happen.
You have to LEARN how to play a guitar so you can create great sounding music when you play it. This means taking lessons, practicing, being consistent with practice, and playing in front of others.
Marriage is the same way. We are not born knowing how to build a good marriage, its not intuitive.
You have to learn how to build a good marriage, practice what you learned, and be desciplined and consistent with it. If both spouses do this, the end result is love, the feeling of love, and a deep connection; happiness.
You do not have to give up your marriage to find yourself. This is a price that is too big to pay. You can start a journey of self-discovery to find out who you are and what makes you tick, while married. There is plenty of information out there to help you start that journey.
Who knows, maybe when you find yourself you will discover you were not lost afterall, and marriage is in your core.