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swedish · 11-06-2008, 09:22 AM

Overly sensitive? He let the excitement of a cheap thrill take over his marriage vow to love, honor and cherish YOU. Of course you are hurt. For him to brush it off with the 'it's no big deal get over it' attitude he is only reinforcing that he isn't taking YOUR feelings into account. If he could truly see this from your perspective, he would be helping you to heal...empathy and remorse does wonders in speeding that up.

As humans we all make mistakes and we also have a great capacity for forgiveness but there needs to be some accountability for his actions...'it was just words' doesn't cut it.

(if he were posting this and not you I think I would have typed this in ALL CAPS!!)

11-06-2008, 09:22 AM	#7 (permalink)
swedish Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Near Chicago Posts: 2,521	Re: my hubby and my friend on msn.... Overly sensitive? He let the excitement of a cheap thrill take over his marriage vow to love, honor and cherish YOU. Of course you are hurt. For him to brush it off with the 'it's no big deal get over it' attitude he is only reinforcing that he isn't taking YOUR feelings into account. If he could truly see this from your perspective, he would be helping you to heal...empathy and remorse does wonders in speeding that up. As humans we all make mistakes and we also have a great capacity for forgiveness but there needs to be some accountability for his actions...'it was just words' doesn't cut it. (if he were posting this and not you I think I would have typed this in ALL CAPS!!)