| | Re: I want to be happy. Should I be?
Is he your "soulmate"? Do you think you'll ever find someone like him? Will you ever be as comfortable around someone else?
Just asking because these are the questions I had to ask myself about my H when I was thinking the same things as you. If he is your "soulmate" (however you view this term), is it possible that you never worked on being your own person before you met him? And now that you're tied down, you think of all the amazing things you could do on your own, and how you wouldn't have to worry about him getting mad.
Think about being without him. Do you think that you would eventually be lonely and wonder why you threw away a marriage only because you wanted to be independent?
My solution to this problem was to become independent while still with him. Once I did this, I realized that I do still love being with him and hanging out with him. It was just that I revolved my whole world around him and thought he was dragging me down, when really it was me. Maybe give that a chance? Try living your life they way you would without him, but still with him. If he loves you & wants to save your marriage, then he will understand. Most men want their wives to be independent anyway, and he would probably understand and support this.