Originally Posted by Scannerguard
While I usually agree with Deejo on a lot of subjects, I am going to part ways with him on this one.
I never, EVER tried to engage in witty and insulting banter with my ex. or any of my girlfriends.
They're a spouse, not an online debating partner like a lot of you chuckleheads, a friend where you razz each other, etc. You are there to make them feel good about themselves and honor them, not degrade them, even in fun.
It's a fine line. . .you don't want to be on eggshells around your spouse but I think coming down on the side of respect and politeness helps fulfill your vows to honor your spouse.
I get you. Thing is, until relatively recently, we both engaged in it and had no problems. He could be quite "insulting" but funny with it and he loved my reactions to it, and I had no problems with hearing and responding. I have had to say to him now though that he is "not at work" - he works in a very male environment and I have heard their banter which goes way past what we have said to each other previously. He has acknowledged this and apologised a number of times, it is just that now he is overstepping the mark with the comments.
I have found myself a lot more conscious about my little baby belly since his comments, finding myself trying to cover it up, which has made me angry both with him but also with myself - FGS my baby is only 4 months old, there's no way I can be looking like I did in that space of time!