Talk About Marriage - View Single Post

MarkTwain · 11-06-2008, 03:55 PM

bhappy3-

I made a decision never to turn my wife down for sex. But sex might mean a hand job (for her) if I am really not in the mood. So far, that has never happened!

However, you can't necessarily expect to get that agreement from your hubby - not in one go anyway. In a relationship that works, there would normally be occasional rejection of the other partners initiation of sex. Surely in the past you must have rejected his initiations from time to time?

All I'm suggesting is you talk to him. You already have his attention. So you can call the shots.

Of course he might backslide - but if you work out an agreement beforehand, you can remind him of it as soon as you notice something. It's probably never going to be exactly what you want in your perfect fantasy, but, it could be a lot lot better than what you have now, and that should be your aim.

11-06-2008, 03:55 PM	#30 (permalink)
MarkTwain Forum Supporter Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Yorkshire, UK Posts: 3,426	Re: My give a damn's busted bhappy3- I made a decision never to turn my wife down for sex. But sex might mean a hand job (for her) if I am really not in the mood. So far, that has never happened! However, you can't necessarily expect to get that agreement from your hubby - not in one go anyway. In a relationship that works, there would normally be occasional rejection of the other partners initiation of sex. Surely in the past you must have rejected his initiations from time to time? All I'm suggesting is you talk to him. You already have his attention. So you can call the shots. Of course he might backslide - but if you work out an agreement beforehand, you can remind him of it as soon as you notice something. It's probably never going to be exactly what you want in your perfect fantasy, but, it could be a lot lot better than what you have now, and that should be your aim.