| | Re: "Trickle Truth"
Have you discussed the concept of "trickle truth" with her? Explain that hearing something new every day makes you dread what you'll find out tomorrow, and next week, and next month, etc.,
Try telling her that you would rather have the band-aid ripped off all at once. Ask her if you can set aside some time in the evening or on a weekend where she can come clean with any info she thinks might be important, and where she will agree to answer any and all questions from you.
Explain that this will help you BOTH begin to get past things quicker if everything is out on the table.