Originally Posted by credamdóchasgra
I did not realize the connection between that affirmation and being unattractive.
That is not a coincidence.
Thank you, your wife, and the kids for the example (ok, thank those poor sidelong suitors too). It helps me see how I'm "giving in order to get."
I do have the fear that I'll never "get" what I need. But apparently that fear will get in the way, so here's to the next step--overcoming that fear.
You simply MUST deal with that fear.
There are a number of ways it can subside, and it will likely be a combination of several.
That's where the parts work can be really helpful. In your case, I think it's essential - as you simply aren't going to rest until you really "know" what to do.