Originally Posted by TedT
And I notice on Facebook that my wife has "Friend Requested" this gentleman. I ask her why. She says she heard he had had a child in the last year and even though I wouldn't understand she wanted to see what the child looked like. I suppose because she always wanted to know what her child may have looked like. I told her we now had our own children and that although I could see why she wanted to open that door it was probably best that she didn't.
I don't think I would just drop it at this point, for a couple of reasons. It's obvious you and your wife are close & she's been forthcoming when you asked her about the friend request, so she would probably be receptive to opening up to you on how she feels. If you brush her under the rug by saying it's best to leave that in the past, she obviously has not been able to feel peace/closure within herself and may seek to continue searching for it by continued contact with him.
I am not saying you should or should not confront her about the email exchange, but the friend request has already opened up that dialogue & you should be the person working through this with her, not him.