Originally Posted by typewittyusernamehere
I am newly divorced, (not by my choice) I am a stander for restoration of my marriage. (WELCOME - Rejoice Marriage Ministries
) My husband has no interest in reconciliation, but he knows how much I still love him, and want to reconcile. Our sex life is better now than it has ever been. I am intimate with him because I love him, and want to feel close to him. (he knows this, as I tell him often) I guess my question is, can someone who has been with someone for ten years, be intimate, and have no feelings toward that person. I am also wondering about his motives. I guess more forward, *Guys, can you have sex with an ex with whom you've been with for over 10 years with no feelings?
Feelings can be attached to the act, the moment, or the memories of another time in the relationship ... so the short answer is, yes you can still be intimate. And yes, you should be wondering about his motives.
If you are still having sex with him, possibly even more frequent, and 'better' sex ... than what motivation would he have to actually try to work on and repair the framework of the marriage outside of the bedroom?