Tourchwood

mommabear, I'm not hear to judge or make it worse, but you have to be honest with yourself, if that woman have not told your husband you would never stopped doing that person, you tell yourself eventually you would, then it seems to me you are the person needs to work on yourself. you are just trying to make your husband forget like nothing happened ( direct his anger to something productive).
you are the person that needs to implement trust inside him, he has nothing to work on except seeing you trying hard.
may be if you told him you cheated without him finding out the other way things would went different way.
he believe that the only reason you stopped doing the other person because he caught you otherwise he would never find out.
by the way my other side of the family are Sicilian and from what I know about them cheating is a big taboo to the man, its embarrassing and the man cant face his family with a cheater wife, it went to a limit that men who their wives cheated would leave the city and never come back to it because of the reputation