MisterNiceGuy

An update... well things have turn better around here the past couple of days. My wife is a lot more cheerful and so am I. She has been reading the 5 Love Languages book and we were going through it a bit, which is an encouraging sign that she is thinking about the future. We talked for several hours yesterday about emotional needs and such and she was very encouraging. I brought up the OM and she said she felt stupid and that there was nothing there and I needed to trust her. There was no affair (the guys wife is one of my wife's good friends) and she couldn't be the cause of so much heartache and disruption to his family and our friends.

Today she was very upbeat and I know she was going to meet this guy today for lunch. After she left, I checked her computer and there was not document up on it basically saying that she and he were both searching for something, but she (my wife) is going to use her marriage as the place to find what she is looking for (yah for me!) and that he either needs to leave his wife or find whatever he needs in his marriage but she wasn't going to be apart of whatever he needs to do.

I know my wife pretty well (17 years together) and when she makes up her mind, there really isn't turning her around. I think she's made her mind up to try and work on our marriage and not do anything with this guy.

Her actions speak volumes and I'm not getting that vibe anymore from her that this is something I need to worry about. Like I said, I'll bring it up one last time with the therapist this Friday, but then I'm putting it to sleep...