Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Sometimes it feels like a terrible mistake

SageMother · 11-13-2007, 03:43 PM

I must be the strangest woman around. It sounds like you have the perfect marriage to me.

I have never put much stock in what we are taught our feelings should be for our chosen spouses. Being a "glorified" friend is the safest place to be, IMHO. Perhaps tales of endless romance have created unreasonable expectations, as it does for so many people.

Now, this isn't to say that you don't have the right to have true happiness, but being content and safe gets a lot more mileage.

My suggestion?

Make the first move toward adding a little spark to your relationship. Since you are not hobbled by intense emotion, you can be creative in keeping the relationship interesting and adventurous. Being a loving spouse can take many forms. YOu can stop comparing your emotions to your spouses if you accept the ways that you show that you are a loving person.

It sounds like you are being too hard on yourself!

11-13-2007, 03:43 PM	#6 (permalink)
SageMother Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 166	Re: Sometimes it feels like a terrible mistake I must be the strangest woman around. It sounds like you have the perfect marriage to me. I have never put much stock in what we are taught our feelings should be for our chosen spouses. Being a "glorified" friend is the safest place to be, IMHO. Perhaps tales of endless romance have created unreasonable expectations, as it does for so many people. Now, this isn't to say that you don't have the right to have true happiness, but being content and safe gets a lot more mileage. My suggestion? Make the first move toward adding a little spark to your relationship. Since you are not hobbled by intense emotion, you can be creative in keeping the relationship interesting and adventurous. Being a loving spouse can take many forms. YOu can stop comparing your emotions to your spouses if you accept the ways that you show that you are a loving person. It sounds like you are being too hard on yourself!