| | Re: Where to begin? Where to go?
I married two alcoholics. I was stupid. I also had a repetition compulsion to "fix" other people; to make them see the light, so to speak.
What did I end up with?
1) Loss of my own identity.
2) Completely focused on the addict and his addiction ... and
3) Not to mention the physical breakdown of my body from the stress.
Alcoholism is PROGRESSIVE disease. As it progresses, money problems, unemployment, under-employment, abuse (emotional and/or physical), isolation, inability to focus on anything but the booze, and inability to admit (D-E-N-I-A-L) addiction occur.
If you want to be dragged through he!! and back, stay and try to do a repair job. However, the only repair job you can do is on yourself. You probably make enough money to support yourself without having a ball-and-chain addict hanging around your neck.
When the pain of staying exceeds the pain of leaving, you WILL leave.
I did it.
And I have survived. But, most importantly, I have PEACE in my life.
That is worth more to me than either of my so-called marriages.