I don't have the full picture on your situation, but I would be wary of ignoring your unmet needs, especially open communication. It breeds resentment in you, is usually then expressed as anger, and that makes the emotional distance between partners even worse.
With the help of TAM, I realized that my partner was practicing some text book passive-aggressive behavior, and it really, really, really helped clarify what I had been experiencing. It sounds like you're stuck in the same catch 22. This article in particle made tremendous sense to me: Get Your ANGRIES Out
It looks at both partners cooperation in a dysfunctional dynamic, and gives suggestions for moving forward, and asks the hard questions of what to do if your spouse is uncooperative in trying to change for the better.
I hope it helps!