| | Re: EA already moving towards PA!
Contact the OM and tell him he has one shot here, and you will not expose this affair if #1 he does not tell your wife about this contact, #2 he ends all contact with her # 3 if she contact him, he breaks it off.
Remind him again if he tells your wife and or you have any feed back from any one else about this conversation you will expose the evidence of this affair to his wife, his parents and his employer, everyone. If you find any thing that remotely senses any contact you will expose.
As long as OM ends the affair and never brings up the conversation the two of you had you will remain silent and the evidence will go away.