| | Re: Years of Indecision
I read your post..and a few of the responses. I felt like you were describing my exact situation. HOWEVER, I don't really agree with the poster who advocated for staying in your marriage..or talk of "selfishness". I do think I understand where you are coming from. I have been married for 10yrs. I have no emotional connection with my husband--it is really sad. I truly want something more, and I want my son to grow up around something different, not see me treated with indifference and disrespect. Honestly, I felt sad just thinking of you (and I don't even know you) in the same situation 10 yrs from now. There is something to be said fo leaving an unfulfilling relationship. I sensed from your post that you do not feel an emotional connection..what do you gain by staying? Is it not better for your children to have 2 happy homes vs 1 miserable one? Secondly, I do think they will figure out that you are not in a happy situation. Perhaps they are too young now--but they will get older and be more aware. thirdly..what are we teaching our children by staying in unfulfilling relationships? would you want the same for your daughter or son? These were my thought when I read your post. I have no judgment--obviously..but do you think you could have a win win situation here..both you and your spouse ALWAYS keep your children as the priority by keeping things positive, not negative toward the other person, consistent, and remain good role models..just in seperate homes? Just wondering if this is an option. Just simply make it happen that there is no nasty custody battle, etc. 50/50. Just another perspective..Best wishes to you.