Originally Posted by Blanca
OK. i guess i was confused because i thought this implied that you were thinking of cutting him off from his kid and so he was trying to wiggle around that.
Now, I guess, as I re-read it, its a little confusing. No, I would never think of keeping my child from his/her father like that. But my husband thinks that, even though he's seen how it is with my previous children and their dad. I, personally grew up without my father, I have photos of him and bad memories of him as a child. I feel even though the parents may not together, to have both biological parents in their lives is important. Especially when both WANT to be involved.
Its just my husband says we'll see how it goes with our relationship, but he can't say that he still cares about me, not in any context. Then he comes over and all he wants is sex, and we're supposed to be taking things slow? Majority of the conversation ends up being about child custody. I am tired of repeating myself to him. I have no history of being a person like that, who uses their children as pawns in their breakups. Thats horrible.
So, I figured, I want to work on how I can be a better partner in the relationship, so I ask "how shall we go about this? Lets talk it out so we are clear and don't overstep any boundaries on either side." But any mention of relationship and he's ready to walk out the door. So, he's confusing me. He wants sex, but is still somewhat distant and can't express any feelings for me other than "i wanna have sex with you". I guess I just want to know the truth about whether he really wants to work it out or not. This doesn't affect the future of him and his baby. I just don't want to be led on another emotional roller coaster ride. I am going to be a single mother of 4 soon and I just can't take any more hurt. Posted via Mobile Device