Re: Married Into Lies
what i've learnt from personal experience... and of which i've been reminded when reading your post...:
when we're with someone, who 'understands' us, or 'loves' us, and 'cares' for us, to an extent greater than the last person we were with or simply to an extent that we feel we want and need truly... we get attached, and the attachment grows... and if the need to PART occurs, we don't even want to consider it because the attachment has reached a sort of fake point of no-return, it's just psychological, but we feel that if we detach ourselves from this person, we'll fall apart, our lives will fall apart and we'll be left with nothing, reduced to nothingness.
so, this FEAR makes us deal with all the crap this person might throw at us. ALL THE CRAP, ALL OF IT, we deal with it, take it in our stride, scream yell shout cry... keep quiet. but we deal with it.. or just bear it, tolerate it.
all because we think we won't be able to do better than this person, all because we think we won't be able to find better, all because we think that we don't DESERVE better than this.
BUT WE DO.
WE DO DESERVE BETTER.
we just have to learn to accept that and internalise that... and move on from there.
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