 Re: i thought i was a good guy
Yes, she had an affair. This isn't an "after the fact" thing. Visit the Men's Clubhouse for more info on what happens to nice guys. I'm afraid you were too nice and you stepped out of the way. He obviously wronged his wife as well. I would do a 180 and take care of yourself. Only she can decide if her marriage is worth working on. Good luck.
__________________ ~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~ Or, you could be a big sap and trust your husband, and he could end up being a lying, spineless, cheater.  | 