Talk About Marriage - View Single Post

draconis · 11-15-2007, 02:39 AM

After I described myself as having the perfect relationship on another forum I had a person doubt anyone could have a perfect relationship. I started to think about what a perfect relationship was and about mine.

In ten years my wife and I have been together with the same feelings of bliss as the first days or just around the time of marriage.

We have only argued 7 times in nearly 3650 days. So we where in bliss 99.999% of the time. That is the same rating they give pure gold used in troy oz.

I guess you’d have to believe in happiness, love and affection to get it or even accept it.

So the next thing was to look at my marriage.

Communication has always been a key. My wife and I agree on 99% of things and the last 1% we can always find common ground. We have stated quite clearly what we expect out of our marriage and neither has had any issue in that. More then just that we listen to each other, we understand boundaries, we accept each other and share all we have and all we are.

Physical attraction normally brings two people together. My wife looks better now after having several kids then when we first met. So she is more attractive to me.

Mental attraction is also key to me. I am always studying something. But she has always amazed me on how smart she was. Now that she is in college it is all the better, and she is shining.

Love and caring come into play too. I don’t think I have ever been as deeply in love with someone ever. As time goes on it just gets better and more intense.

My wife trusts me and I trust her. There isn’t a single thing I do that she doesn’t know about. I am very transparent with everything. We built this level of trust with being open, honest and dependable. If there was ever a riff forgiveness would be quickly offered and that thing would be a non-issue in our lives.

Some say that sex dies after the first year of marriage. It doesn’t have to. Our sex life is doing just fine. We still are together as much as when we first started and the first year as we are now. The only difference is it has gotten a whole lot better now that we know how to please each other.

We are a team, we are compatible and cooperate on everything we can. We can accommodate each other.

We are friends, have laughs together and enjoy the time we spend together. We make the most of every minute we can. We do not just share a house or a bed. We share ourselves.

Our kids know what love really is. The wife and I must kiss 50-100 times a day. Hugs are always welcome even at random encounters. When I am at home my thoughts are focused on my wife and family.

To me that is perfect.

Now some people might say that perfect means: entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings. That would be one definition to the extreme. But more often perfect is described as: conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type. I would say I have the ideal marriage one of always being happy.

I try to make it a point to do something everyday for my wife. She may or may not notice what I have done. It doesn’t matter, because she sees enough to know I am always willing to put a bit extra into the relationship. My wife does many little things for me and if I need something all I have to do is ask her. Even when she isn’t feeling well I know she will try.

draconis

I welcome anyones opinions.

11-15-2007, 02:39 AM	#1 (permalink)
draconis Forum Supporter Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: North East Posts: 3,347	The perfect relationship? After I described myself as having the perfect relationship on another forum I had a person doubt anyone could have a perfect relationship. I started to think about what a perfect relationship was and about mine. In ten years my wife and I have been together with the same feelings of bliss as the first days or just around the time of marriage. We have only argued 7 times in nearly 3650 days. So we where in bliss 99.999% of the time. That is the same rating they give pure gold used in troy oz. I guess you’d have to believe in happiness, love and affection to get it or even accept it. So the next thing was to look at my marriage. Communication has always been a key. My wife and I agree on 99% of things and the last 1% we can always find common ground. We have stated quite clearly what we expect out of our marriage and neither has had any issue in that. More then just that we listen to each other, we understand boundaries, we accept each other and share all we have and all we are. Physical attraction normally brings two people together. My wife looks better now after having several kids then when we first met. So she is more attractive to me. Mental attraction is also key to me. I am always studying something. But she has always amazed me on how smart she was. Now that she is in college it is all the better, and she is shining. Love and caring come into play too. I don’t think I have ever been as deeply in love with someone ever. As time goes on it just gets better and more intense. My wife trusts me and I trust her. There isn’t a single thing I do that she doesn’t know about. I am very transparent with everything. We built this level of trust with being open, honest and dependable. If there was ever a riff forgiveness would be quickly offered and that thing would be a non-issue in our lives. Some say that sex dies after the first year of marriage. It doesn’t have to. Our sex life is doing just fine. We still are together as much as when we first started and the first year as we are now. The only difference is it has gotten a whole lot better now that we know how to please each other. We are a team, we are compatible and cooperate on everything we can. We can accommodate each other. We are friends, have laughs together and enjoy the time we spend together. We make the most of every minute we can. We do not just share a house or a bed. We share ourselves. Our kids know what love really is. The wife and I must kiss 50-100 times a day. Hugs are always welcome even at random encounters. When I am at home my thoughts are focused on my wife and family. To me that is perfect. Now some people might say that perfect means: entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings. That would be one definition to the extreme. But more often perfect is described as: conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type. I would say I have the ideal marriage one of always being happy. I try to make it a point to do something everyday for my wife. She may or may not notice what I have done. It doesn’t matter, because she sees enough to know I am always willing to put a bit extra into the relationship. My wife does many little things for me and if I need something all I have to do is ask her. Even when she isn’t feeling well I know she will try. draconis I welcome anyones opinions.