Ok ... You have been read.
Quite frankly, your generalizations feel a little too
specific
I can't argue nor would I question what you feel, how you operate or what feels right in the relationships that you are in or have been in.
You're claim about women not needing sex to feel love? True. For my girlfriend. She has outright told me as much. False for no fewer than a dozen other women I have been with. On several occasions I have heard articulated from the lips of a woman that there is no more intimate and loving an act than the bond that sex creates. Who knows ... maybe they were faking it ...
For me, one man; I can have an intimate sexual relationship without love. I cannot imagine having an intimate loving relationship without sex. If I am in love, THE most clear and demonstrative way that my partner can convey that message is through sex. It isn't the ONLY one. But it is the most powerful - and if it is absent, all of the other manners of delivering the message of 'I love you' simply don't mean as much.
And that's how it is. For me.
Your talking points remind me of every once in a while a guy will post about the salient points of the 'biological imperative of sex'.
(Views and opinions expressed below are not necessarily those held by Deejo)
Men are driven to pursue sex with as many partners as possible to assure the species carries on. Women are driven to accept a genetically superior, or preferrable sex partner for the goal of producing offspring with a high rate of survivability and success. Their makeup consists of the desire to nurture and protect children to sexual maturity.
It ain't wrong. Not by a longshot. But no way in hell is it the whole story either.
I'm fine with generalizations. Some encapsulate a general concept far more successfully than others.
In this case, I'm not going to argue that this is your truth and experience ... in general.
Lot of the ladies have this kind of issue with the 'Man Up' discussions. It is a strategy of behavior and self-control offered to men as a means of recovering their sense of self-esteem, or balance in a faltering relationship. I don't expect the recommendations to make a lick of sense to someone whose experience has nothing in common with those that are struggling with issues surrounding respect, attraction, or sex.
One size most certainly does not fit all, and that's ok. Keeps things interesting.
Sexual dynamics are always going to be a ripe topic for hoeing around in ... and talking about too.
