| | Re: My Brother in Law
im sorry that you feel the jealousy, but the one with the real jealousy problems is the brother inlaw.
he looks at his brother , your H with contempt at what you both have in your lives.
his brother has a wife, happiness, sex ,communication,home, stablity and whats the brother in law got , nothing compared.
i have seen this so many times. its like your H has a bad best friend, that unfortunately with the brother, you just cant let them go. best friends , well you can let them go, if they come to no good. but family are very different.
the demands from the brother in law are abnormal for your relationship with your H and this needs to be addressed, or your marriage will b in jeopardy at some point.
your not being selfish.
unfortuately arguing is going to break you mentally and spiritually.
your H needs to acknowledge it can and wil affect his marriage.
i dont think you can break a brotherly bond, no matter how much demands are made by one.
but a suggestion, your H needs to look at reducing the brothers demands.
i dont think this is an easy situation for you .
try making your own demands to go out as H and W.
the brother in law - my real thought. he wants his brother to himself . your in the way , he wants you out and not in the picture.