Gwen

Hi Patty Newbold, your post makes a lot of sense.

I don't think there's any reason for him to be unhappy about my unemployment. I did consult him first, in fact he told me to leave way before I actually did. He's not my sponsor for immigration purposes as I'm currently on a working holiday visa. But also I think that if he was, it would be because he proposed to me and asked me to move to his country, so he shouldn't feel unhappy about it, should he? Dunno.

I have money saved and don't need him to provide for me at all. When we were in my country I used to get paid more than him and paid for most bills for that reason. Now he gets paid more but I still earn reasonably well and am able to support myself. I have only been unemployed for 1 week anyway!

Your advice about dealing with things more directly is great and I do try to keep that in mind, but it's hard sometimes. Also, whenever I say anything he makes it out that I'm too hard work, close minded, etc, so we don't tend to get anywhere. He tends to want me to get over things (and actually uses those words) rather than talk about an compromise.

You've given me a lot of food for thought, I really appreciate it!