In one of my past relationships, my therapist told me and my boyfriend at the time that trust was a choice. Basically, I didn't trust that he loved me, and he kept telling me over and over again that he did. The therapist explained that by choosing to believe him instead of choosing to believe my doubts, i'd basically have to force myself to do it and thus, not contribute to the thing that was causing our relationship to ruin.
I'd not heard of it before, either. And also...just last week during pre-marriage counseling, our pastor told us that love was also a choice. He said it to say that when you are out, away from your spouse, you can choose to love your spouse and choose to be faithful, and that choice will give you the strenght to do the right thing. He wanted us to understand that yes, trust and love derive from feeings/emotions, but we can also make them choices and therefore have some control over them instead of them controling us.
You are the captain of your own being, so why not be the boss of it?
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