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DjF · 02-25-2011, 10:15 AM

Vivea, I completely agree, but when my wife moved out, she (until recently) abandoned our son...I think she resented that he stayed with me...so, I've worked hard at keeping things as normal as possible for him, including his normal Wednesday night obligations...that all ends this week and hopefully 2 weeks from now, I can start those meetings...

for the most part, I've been clean since October...I stumbled after Christmas when she started playing this yo-yo game with me, pulling me in close, then push away...this game went on for about a month and it drove me crazy, I'd get my hopes up, then they would get dashed...starting drinking again...finally, I told her all or nothing and for the past few months, it as been nothing and I stopped drinking again...

Now,, she is coming back and it seems like it may be for real this time, and going to the support group would help anymore...

Actually, and she has said this many times and she is 100% corect, I need to stop for myself first...eventually the alcohol would have taken over...

02-25-2011, 10:15 AM	#28 (permalink)
DjF Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Midwest Posts: 417	Re: Unexpected evening/night... Vivea, I completely agree, but when my wife moved out, she (until recently) abandoned our son...I think she resented that he stayed with me...so, I've worked hard at keeping things as normal as possible for him, including his normal Wednesday night obligations...that all ends this week and hopefully 2 weeks from now, I can start those meetings... for the most part, I've been clean since October...I stumbled after Christmas when she started playing this yo-yo game with me, pulling me in close, then push away...this game went on for about a month and it drove me crazy, I'd get my hopes up, then they would get dashed...starting drinking again...finally, I told her all or nothing and for the past few months, it as been nothing and I stopped drinking again... Now,, she is coming back and it seems like it may be for real this time, and going to the support group would help anymore... Actually, and she has said this many times and she is 100% corect, I need to stop for myself first...eventually the alcohol would have taken over... __________________ I firmly believe that love is a game of control, or maybe true love is a game of giving up control...and if both give up control, then neither have it but the shared one do... bad love contols us like pawns on a chess board...