Re: hit the fan tonight
I don't want the whole sordid story of what we did out there, it wouldn't be fair to me if I exposed just this one transgression without giving the whole story and exposing my mistakes. I don't need the whole world to know that we swapped... still txting with her. I realize she isn't the problem, but with them txting i love you to each other is adding to the whole mess. she admitted her feelings but said she would have never slept with him. Bull, I told her people do crazy things in situations that they never thought they would. She said I shouldn't have kicked him out, that she wouldn't have. Now I am secondguessing myself, am I driving him right to her???
I told her I realize you are having relationship problems, and that I was sorry for that, that I had had no problem when it was just a friends thing, when they just talked about life, it's when the feelings got involved is where it crossed the line, he would call her at 530 in the morning and talk to her on the way to work, and they would talk 3 4 5 times a day during the day. They both have jobs where it's allowed, so exposing to their works would do no good. He used to call me on his lunch breaks, but as I watch kids it was when I was putting them down for nap, and he'd get upset when it seemed like I couldn't wait to get off the phone. I just txted her that if she truly cares for him and want what's best for him stop contact now so he can get his head on straight and make clear headed decisions.
She just txted me that she isn't gonna promise not to talk to him, if she truly cared for him as a friend, she'd let go and give him the chance he deserves to get his head on straight. She is being selfish, he's being stubborn. How can I trust that they wouldn't be saying I love u I love u I love u for the next 5 years if he and I got back together? That things wouldn't escalate into a PA? At least when he was at home I could keep an eye on him, because he's always been pretty good about coming just too and from work. Do I let him come back???
Last edited by paramore; 02-27-2011 at 10:15 PM.
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